Every gay man i know carries around a mental portfolio of all the shitty things other gay men have said and done to him. I arrived to a date once and the guy immediately stood up, said i was shorter than i looked in my pictures and left. Everyone feels isolated at some point, but for members of the lgbtq community, that loneliness hits harder. Loneliness inevitable when youre gay being gay means once you hit 40 youre considered too old for any gay activities like going to bars, mardi gras or even being. Ive had 2 long term relationships leave me for younger men (younger than themselves) and now as i head towards 48 ive come to the realisation i will spend the rest of my years alone. Find over 7 lonely gay men groups with 3230 members near you and meet people in your local community who share your interests. Its a lonely feeling and im often envious when i read of my married friends placement and predicament. Most 50-something gay men i know are married, and a huge percentage have children. I dont know if they are all in love, or if it even matters, but i envy the security they have.