Polls indicate that between 55 and 80 percent of gay males participate in anal sex. Jean is it ever okay to ask my co-workers about their salaries? I want to get an idea of how much my co-workers make to negotiate my salary when the time comes. Its time again for dear wendy updates, a feature where people ive given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how theyre doing now. Today we hear from feeling regret whose girlfriend of nine and a half years broke up with him because he wasnt ready to get married. gay and lesbian couples were gentler in raising issues, far less defensive, and used more humor than heterosexual partners, said john m. My girlfriend is in her 30s, but save for a few one-night stands, she has never been with a woman before. Rgay rgay is a 150,000 strong community of 10 years based on pride and support. Dear confused, straight or gay, this relationship was doomed from the start. People should get together with people who are their sociological equal and psychological opposite.