These large cities and smaller towns are known for their large gay and lesbian populations and open communities. Publications like the advocate base their annual rankings on criteria like the number of lgbtq elected officials and. This list offers some insights into some of the big and obvious cities like new york and san francisco, as well as some smaller gay-friendly cities you might not know about. Seattle washington is unsurprisingly one of the gayest cities in the nation. Seattle passed san francisco for the most households composed of gay or lesbian couples at 2. 11 most gay friendly cities there are many cities around the world that welcome and embrace the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (lgbt) community. The big gay city of portland or (nw) portlandias pretty white and pretty gay so gay, advocate listed it as the 20 th gayest city in the us in 2014 and business insider ranked it the sixth-best city for queer singles.